Ask Sandra
OK Sandra...
I need your advice.
Tell us what's going on. Relationships, friendships, family, motherhood, work, confidence, money, faith, boundaries, starting over, or something you just can't figure out. Sometimes another perspective changes everything.
I'd rather stay anonymous — that's an option below.
How this works
You can use your name, choose a display name, or stay anonymous.
- Write it however it comes out. Nobody is grading you. Start in the middle if that's where you are.
- You'll get honesty, not flattery. Sandra doesn't automatically take your side. That's what makes the advice worth reading.
- Privacy is normal here. Letters chosen for publication are edited to remove identifying details.
- Sometimes you need advice. Sometimes you need information. Sometimes you need a plan. Sometimes you just need girl talk.
Need more support?
Some conversations need more than a column. If you're dealing with fear, control, threats, coercion, or thoughts of harming yourself, please talk to a licensed professional, a clinician, or local emergency services where you are. OK SANDRA offers editorial perspective — not medical, legal, or crisis care. Support pathways on this site will always remain free and open to everyone.
What we talk about
Every category is a conversation, not a diagnosis.
- Love + Dating
- Marriage + Partnership
- Friendship
- Mother + Daughter
- Motherhood
- Family
- Work + Career
- Money
- Self-Esteem
- Confidence
- Boundaries
- Communication
- Sex + Intimacy
- Breakups
- Starting Over
- Grief
- Faith
- Health + Wellness
- Girlhood + Growing Up
- Life Changes
- Am I Tripping?
Content written for teens is tagged and kept separate from adult intimacy topics.