OK Sandra... My Daughter Doesn't Talk to Me Anymore.

You may not have done one thing. Sometimes closeness changes shape and both people experience it as loss.

But let me ask you something, mother to mother: when she used to tell you everything, what happened afterward? Was it received, or was it evaluated? Many daughters go quiet not because they stopped loving their mothers, but because every disclosure came back with a correction attached. If she's told you 'you're interrogating me,' she has already given you the note. The question is whether you can hear it as information instead of rejection.

Also true: she's 26. Some of this is not about you at all. Building a separate life requires a door, and doors sometimes get closed harder than necessary while she figures out how to install one.

Try switching from questions to offers. 'I made too much soup, want some?' 'Saw this and thought of you.' No follow-up question. No audit. You are re-establishing that contact with you is low-cost.

And say the honest sentence out loud, once: 'I miss you. I'm not asking you to report to me. I just want to be in your life at whatever size fits.' Then let her set the size.